Who Did I Marry?: Kiddushin 63

May 19, 2016 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
  You have to wonder sometimes about the strange relationships between parents and children. While parents may not always know where their children are, and while they may at times mix up the names of their children, it is hard to imagine a parent not recalling exactly whom their children may have married. Hard, but apparently not impossible.   “I betrothed my daughter but I do not know to whom I betrothed her[1].” (...
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Let Him Have It: Kiddushin 59

May 15, 2016 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
If you are going to have someone do work for you it's probably best to ensure they have your best interests at heart. "One who says to his friend go a betroth a woman and he goes and betroths her to himself, she is married to the second one" (Kiddushin 58b). While the agent may have lost a friend he does gain a wife [1].    Yet what is legal is not necessarily moral. "What he did was done but he...
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Becoming a Tzadik: Kiddushin 49

May 13, 2016 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
"The signature of G-d is truth." (Shabbat 55b) As beings created in the image of G-d we too are expected to be the epitome of integrity. Lying or misrepresenting oneself earns one not only moral opprobrium but has legal implications as well.    "Be betrothed to me with this cup of wine yet it is honey, with honey but it is wine...on condition that I am wealthy yet he is poor, on condition that I am poor yet he is...
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Delegate It Yourself: Kiddushin 41

May 06, 2016 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
"If you want something done right do it yourself" is a nice idea in theory but one with limited applications. It is not possible for any successful institution to run without delegation of authority. And the bigger and more successful the organization the more partners that are needed and the more work that needs to be delegated. Many a potentially great organization withered and failed due to a 'do it yourself person' at the...
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Good Habits: Kiddushin 40

April 28, 2016 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
We are creatures of habit. We tend to do what we have done in the past, which is why it is so important to get things right the first time. Learn it wrong initially, and the mistakes can stay with you a lifetime. Practice does not make perfect. It is proper practice that makes perfect, practice only helps to form our habits.    This explains why the mitzva of chinuch, educating our children, applies only when a child...
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