Ketubot 10: Money, Money, Money

February 15, 2015 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
Money is a great motivator, impacting so many of the decisions we make. The crucial role money plays in our lives can best be seen by the fact that in Biblical Hebrew, damim means both "blood" and "money". Taking away a person's money is akin to taking away part of his life (Bava Kamma 119a).   Our Sages were greatly concerned lest one waste money, and even...
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Ketubot 5: Moving Yom Kippur

February 11, 2015 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
In our last post we discussed that a betulah should marry on a Wednesday evening so that if it is discovered that the wife is not a virgin the husband could go to court and have the matter properly investigated. Yet the Gemara realizes that there may be situations in which a couple would not be intimate on their wedding night - if for example the woman becomes a niddah just before the wedding. In...
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Ketubot 2: We Would Like to Invite You...

February 08, 2015 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
Planning a wedding is no easy task. One must pick a date, hall, caterer, band, florist, and on and on it goes. For those living in North America (and I presume most everywhere else except Israel), having a Sunday wedding is most desirable. With no need to worry about people's work schedules, one can start and end a bit early. Those coming from out of town can fly in the morning making an afternoon wedding a viable option.   None of...
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Some Opening Thoughts on Masechet Ketubot

February 05, 2015 By: Rabbi Jay Kelman
The Ketuba is one of the best known, but least understood, documents in Judaism. Read at every wedding, many mistakenly believe it is a marriage document not realizing that it is the first prenuptial agreement instituted for protection of the wife. It guaranteed the woman a fixed amount in the event of divorce or death of the husband. Recall that until the ban of excommunication by Rabbeinu Geshom in the 10th century a man could divorce his wife...
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